Jan 21 / Shannon McGuire

More than Bouncing Back

The Conqueror’s Mindset flips adversity to advantage, tragedy to triumph a tribulation into jubilation.

The buzz of resilience is everywhere. It’s touted as something to teach kids so they learn how to overcome obstacles. Some people get it confused, though. Resilient people don’t just bounce back from hard experiences; they find healthy ways to integrate those experiences into their lives AND find ways to recharge—living to fight another day. 

Hope is a crucial ingredient of resilience. I’ve seen people fail at achieving success because they lacked hope. If you don’t believe that you can succeed or that things can improve, it’s difficult to remain positive and optimistic. 

I’m often asked how I learned to be so resilient. It’s a question that I noodled on for some time. I couldn’t quite find the right word or explanation to describe my views until revisiting my past. 

As I looked back at older versions of me, I saw that I suffered most when I integrated distressing experiences into my life through an Adversity Mindset. My perceptions would filter each and every moment through a lens of lack, fear, and doubt. The odds were always against me—events and people, too. The self-limiting beliefs that arose from this mindset produced negative outcomes that stemmed from my poor choices and emotional turmoil. I received negative outcomes because my filters were negative—meaning it subtracted from any joy I had. I would literally drain myself daily.

When I integrated my distressing experiences advantageously, they became part of my identity and belief system as a badge of honor. The difference here is that my perceptions were filtered through a Conqueror’s Mindset—one that reinforced a belief of abundance, courage and gratitude. I learned that no matter the circumstance or event I suffered through, I had the power and ability to judo that pain into pleasure by looking at my tragedy and strife through a new lens. 

My decisions came from a place of joy that created peace of mind and acceptance of my circumstances. I also saw that my outcomes were more positive—meaning they added to my joy bucket. I would literally charge myself up—moment by moment. 

If we root our kids and communities in the Conqueror’s Mindset, we can create life experiences that are based on trust, mindfulness, compassion, forgiveness, and a deep gratitude for life—no matter how “adverse” they might seem.